One giant leap forward! - Part 8

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It's messing with my head this new information about her wanting back in. I feel for the first time I was actually getting somewhere and now this.
I don't know how long I take to decide on this. What is long enough and what is ridiculous?

Whatever feels right is what is right. There is no set time, unless one of you moves on while waiting for the other.

I would be very, very careful here T. I agree with Sandi and I think she is testing the waters to see if she can bring you back. It doesn't mean there isn't a part of her that wants it, I just wouldn't trust that part at this point in time to be able to commit. If you do want to give it a chance, I would not proceed until she is counseling and you start to see some real changes in her.

I asked her if it's so important I see the kids more why does stop me from Skyping them sometimes and make it awkward. She said it's because she is hurting.

This alone shows how much growing she has to do if she is using her children as pawns to get back at you.

I agree. Patience has never been one of my W's strengths. It is the hurdle she fell on last time too.

I don't think she fell on patience last time. I don't think she was ever committed and she was doing what I did, "Ok, now he's back and I feel safe in that area again so I can go do what I really want to do and that is be in contact with OM"

I believe there is a part of her that wants your M. I just wouldn't go back until that part grows bigger and is fully committed.