NLT thanks for posting on my thread - I too was a night hawk for the longest time. Now I usually sleep deeply and soundly, thanks goodness. The not sleeping is depleting. Sometimes I have a restless night. MLC is traumatizing for us and it takes its toll
As for 'too detached' there is no such thing imo. I suspect you are a mix of detaching with a bit of numbness thrown in. When I manage real detachment it is almost zen like - you care, but not in any way that engages you emotionally in their drama. I am truly sorry (as well as exasperated and occasionally still hurt) for all that has happened and is happening, but I can do nothing about it except live my life
