My wife, and the way she was raised, has no communications skills at all. Its something that i'd really tried our last couple of years to address. She keeps everything bottled up, refuses to talk about anything on her mind. Wallows in self pity, then decides she's had enough all without letting anyone know there was an issue in the first place.
I tried to get her to go to IC, even if it didn't save our marriage cause she needed some tools to work thru issues. She just doesn't feel she needs that help. Her friends offer her advice and that's what she acts on. She said she understands her faults in our marriage, but doesn't need any help to work thru them.
