I am trying to keep my expectations at zero but I confess, they go into the negative category. Like he is buttering me up to ask me to his wedding to GF. Ah, aren't trust issues sublime?
I guess we will just see how this goes.
I understand that you have negative feelings about WHY he is contacting you but don't assume anything quite yet. I don't believe that he would be contacting you if all he wanted was to throw a relationship that he might still have in your face. You'd think that he'd be too busy with trying to keep her happy to make contact with you. Until he admits to something you'll not know what's going on in his life or in his mind. She may be gone, he may have started to work on his issues or any number of other reasons for the contact.
Keeping your expectations at zero is absolutely the right thing to do. The desire to trust is difficult once it's been lost. Most of us wonder what we'd do if our spouses decided they wanted to reconcile. What if your xSO is truly trying to reconnect? Would you give him the opportunity to earn your trust again? Some people can't once they've been betrayed no matter the circumstances. Just a few things to think about.
I think you're wise to "see how it goes". With expectations at zero you have nothing to lose, imho.
I'm in agreement with the Happy Birthday without the added line about gf/family is appropriate. Do what I do. Think it, say it out loud but don't put it into the text or message to him. He's been pretty active lately with his texts, hasn't he? As Bea or job said a few pages back, he'll find a way to contact you unless you've changed your email, phone or residence and even then if they're desperate, they'll hunt you down! LOL
Me:57H:62 M:34T:35 2S,2D (grown nlah) BD:09/2012 visits M ow EA/PA?:10/2012 H moves out 06/2013
"Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace." -Dalai Lama
