Just talked to a new friend I made - she is in a service that i've needed to use because of being left by H - and she reached out to help because she's been through the same with her H.
anyway...She just told me that it was 5 years to the day last Saturday that she found out about her H's affair.
He did the whole walk away - with a new, younger, crappier, OW, leaving my Friend and her 2 young kids (14 & 15) as if they had never existed.
He built a new home with OW, and pretty much had no contact with my friend and their kids for 5 years.
Then, last Sat night, she hears a knock on her door at 12.30am.
It's her H. He's crying, saying he misses her and the kids and wants to come home.
She was FLOORED.
No contact for 5 years, very little in the way of child support, and so on. And here he is. He'd been drinking, she said, but was not totally drunk.
Said he missed being able to talk to her. Missed his house; didn't like the new one he had to live in, wanted desperately to know if the kids would consider having anything to do with him again. Said she was right and he'd been so wrong to leave them. Begged her to take him back.
She told him to go home and that he'd made his bed. Said she had a brief thought to put her arms around him - as he was so pathetic, but that she remained steadfast.
He left, she went back to bed. At 1.30pm, she hears a knocking on her bedroom window. it's him again, begging to talk.
She went to the door and talked. She showed him a pic on her phone of what their 20-year old D and 19-yo son now look like. But did not let him in. Basically, she has moved on.
Next morning her kids begged her not to let him come back.
