The other thing is to be able to separate my feelings. Right now I don't seem to know the difference between anger, hurt, resentment, bitterness ect. It seems like when I feel one of these it always comes out to be anger.
Personally the book "The Happiness Trap" really helped me understand and address my emotions early in my sitch.
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Just wondering at what point do you cut your losses and maybe look for someone else?
I think a lot of people do this too early. Realistically it often takes over a year before a WAS might start softening to the LBS, but most LBS's start looking for a new mate long before that.
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Maybe there is someone else that you are more compatable with and have a healthier relationship.
It takes 6 months or more to determine if you are really compatible with someone new. Usually things fizzle around then, because the chemical "in love" feelings go away and you're left with all the faults and annoyances that you were willing to ignore up until then. After you've invested 6+ months just to learn you're not compatible, you may have caused irreversible damage to your reconciliation chances. I think you need to decide if you're standing for your M, and if you are, then you need to invest the time and trust that you can always find someone later if things don't work out.
