Just been reading some other threads and just wondering. Looks like what I am tring to achive is to not have any expectations on my current sit, just let happen happen. To detach is to not think about what my w is doing or how she is acting, so that when she tells me something hurtful I am not hurt. But at the same time loving her from a far. It seems like if all that she can give me is friendship than I should take that and be happy because maybe one day her feeling may change.
The other thing is to be able to separate my feelings. Right now I don't seem to know the difference between anger, hurt, resentment, bitterness ect. It seems like when I feel one of these it always comes out to be anger.
Just wondering at what point do you cut your losses and maybe look for someone else? Maybe there is someone else that you are more compatable with and have a healthier relationship. It sometimes sounds on here that no matter how bad the r that the lbs will do everything and anything to get their h/w back. I know no one is prefect and people make mistakes, but how often is one to let the other spouse cheat before they say that's enough? I can see one affair being a mistake but when it happens again doesn't it make it a choice? I'm sorry but I like to have sex and I don't feel it's right to forgo on my part while my spouse is getting it from someone else. Maybe that's why I'm in my sit, to learn.
M 47 W 38 My S 21 Her S 17 Our S 8 M 8 DB 9/5/13
"You don't know how strong you are until strength Is all you have" Bob Marley
