He is 46 I am 47. No he hasn't move in with her she lives in Miami and H lives in Oregon. OW works for a company that will fly them for free so they have been taking lots of trips together and he frequently goes to see her and she come to visit here. He hooked up with her before we split - an emotional relationship to start. Then even before we physically split they vacationing together, OW is separated from H and is going through custody proceedings.
I have been doing many MANY things to keep myself occupied. First, restoring furniture, running, joined a gym, and a woman's group. I don't think reaching out to him is a good idea because it has only succeeded in pissing him off. He said he just wants me to go away.
