Thank you so much for all of the advice. I don't have a problem talking to him about her and how he feels. As long as he is respectful. What I do have to work is controlling my emotions and reactions. I really need to find the crying faucet!! It just happens and I can't stop it. I need to think of something else to stop it.
"I miss OW! I can't believe you made me give her up!" = NOT okay
H agreed to the arrangement of staying at home!
" What I WOULD like to talk to you about are things you feel you ened from me, emotionally, that you felt you weren't getting. Can we talk about that?" (or something similar)"
This I will have to wait on. He won't talk about us at all!!.
The crazy this is when we first started all of this. H wanted to try and work on us. He kept saying it was over and wasn't. He would try to be nice and get along and would say things about trying. Now after 4 times of it's over he is bitter and we can not and will not work on us ever. So MAYBE he is serious about ending it with her and I'll hope things will change. I know I have to show him change and a better me. This is my goal!!
HS, I will wait on NC for a bit and feel it out. I am the one who always tries t fix him and talk with him. As crazy as it sounds I feel like I need to try to get him to talk about it. He just gets so nasty and says things and I need to tell him its not acceptable! I have been doing that. H feels to make the digs at me I think to keep me away??
Thank you again for all of your input.
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
