nice to hear from you. I have wondered how things were going for you.
Sounds as if h's shoulder issue was a blessing in disguise!
Now don't go beating your self up or letting that head of yours lead you into that negative thinking!!
the fact that h even mentioned the superbowl party to you is GREAT!!
so you missed the opportunity to match that with great dbing..but you can make up for it.
obviously the way it went didn't work out..you were placing your own meaning to his "it's a problem for you" tsk tsk! (omg I felt like an old lady saying that) there you could have let him know that it is not a problem for you (we know how ow operates laney, she probably would have split at the first sight of you or knowledge that you'd be attending).
options...
let it slide and make other plans...
ask h what time the party is at, do not mention ow, and if he brings it up be cool with it. "it's not a problem for me"
appologize for how things went express your appreciation for his letting you know that she'd be there and if you are ok with it (and I think it's ok to let him know that you may be a little uncomfortable so possibly discuss ways in wich he can reassure you through out the day, pic a gesture you can share to ease any tensions you may feel during the pty) and would be open to going.
ok now on to the second child thang.
Let it rest for a while, your still young and another year or two in between kids isn't all that un heard of. If you don't want to go back on the pills right now (and if there is a remote possibility that he may be more open to it sooner than later it would be wise to be off them for a while anyway as I've heard it can mess with ya and it would be better for your system to clean out first) but find another means of birth control that doesn't put it all on him there are plenty in the family planning isle.
oh and lastly....
don't forget to breath and relax...things are never as bad as they feel.
