I know I just am so bad at this. I am the type that feeds off of my husbands mood. I am working really hard to not be that way. I read a post from 2006 and she suggested The Solo Partner. In there regarding 180 he said if you are the one who cooks, do things for him, talks first etc. Don't!! I know that is what I need to do. I will be hard because I am a caregiver. I need to not act like he's my 3rd child! I know he will notice. Last night after he told me about the texts and I looked upset he said why are you mad. Leave me alone, you shouldn't care and you just don't get it. I said you don't get it, it is disrespect full and hurts for you to text in front of the me/kids, dinner table, etc. Our agreement is for NC with OW. He said I am not it's her friend...A$$! I said fine, I will leave the room or house when you come home and I will not talk to you. H said you don't have to do that..Oh, yes I do. That he will notice! I asked him what I don't get? He said to leave him alone, and the standard "we will never get back together"!! I replied, I know you remind me daily and I haven't said I that to in weeks. I truly wish H was not here but I know it is for the best. They say it is harder when they are gone? I will be the best wife I can be but will limit contact as much as possible. And say NO when he needs something!!
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
I know he will notice.