Hi Laney, You don't knowme at all, I'm sure. I, too was on the BB early and mid summer and then have just checked in and followed some sitchs'...especially on "Piecing" the past 6 months. I started up again a few days ago.
After reading your sitch.....I totally agree with SAge in that you should re-read DR and listen to the KLA tapes. I just got the tapes this week, and I, too am re-starting with a beginners' mind. You might want to surprise H and agree to go to the SuperBowl party....just be your confident self....afterall your H stayed with YOU! Also...pressing him on his relationship with OW would push his buttons for sure. Stay away from that....just let him talk about her. The baby issue is tough. You may want to back off, take your birthcontrol pills...tell him so....and give it more time. You both need more healing. Have you and H gone to M counseling? Mine won't go....but he might someday. That could help with your communication and eventually work on your mutual family goals/future together. If he won't, what about you on your own. I am seeing a DB councelor, occaisionally do the phone coaching and finding it to be a tremendous help. Remember, "one can tango".
