My previous thread lasted me four months, and a lot has happened on my march forward on the path of life. A quick bio of me and my sitch is in my signature. My threads:
On the other shore (I finally figured out the previous 2 wouldn't fully display)
Teaching the kids to swim
Awesoming all over the place (I could also call it: "awesome-nipresent")
Notables (computer generated at random):
I am pretty darn well detached, but I won't say completely 100% yet.
I moved back into the old house we lived in for four years. I needed space to have for D's and it made financial sense.
Kids were informed of the divorce (very recently), but are doing rather well.
XW is still a mess. She hasn't done anything different and she is still in the same spot (shocker!). Add to that her recent and no-relief-in-sight financial woes. *sigh*
I graduate in a month.
I feel called to comfort others with the comfort with which I've been comforted.
R-based talk is over. I am not hoping it gets brought up. I am not waiting for the right time to say something. I am holding onto my little glimmer of hope, but don't have any expectations.
I will remain faithful to my vows.
I am now comfortable telling people I am divorced.
The depression symptoms that surprisingly returned stayed for a few weeks and are fading away. Even so, they were never as intense as the worst of times for me.
I am primed to build upon this post, specifically boundary establishment and adherence - facing the motivations for my behavior and what loving her looks like.
Thread title: my dad asked how I was doing via email recently. He knew I had some difficult tasks to check off of my list and I had been feeling down. As you (and he) are well aware I tend to be a bit verbose, but this time I didn't need many words to convey the entirety of my state of being. I simply replied: "It is well with my soul." (There's a captivating and tragic story behind the writing of that hymn by Horatio Spafford.)
Thank you to all who read, opine, pray, care, spend mental energy on, or just keep up with my sitch in general. I sincerely appreciate the support.
Enduring well (true story),
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
