I know you are frustrated. You do want to save your M, right? Take a deep breath and remind yourself of what your goal is. Right now you are quite literally dealing with a crazy person (your H). Ever try to reason with a crazy person? They never hear you, they just stay in crazy land. Rest assured, once the hormones have moved out of your husband's system, he will start coming back to himself. When he does start seeing out of the fog in glimpses, you want him to see a vision of a wife that he wants to be with, not an angry one that he wants to avoid!
As hard as it is, do your VERY best to be the wife of his dreams- despite how he acts! Do this until Christmas (the date you set).
By Christmas if he is still fogged out by the OW (intermitten contact) the best for you would probably be to separate. Go completely dark. That may be what's needed to wake him up at that point.
