So lost and hurt #3

[Truegritter]

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Just because you say you are detached doesn't make it so....

Posted 10-27

Oh yea, W also said that we are talking and having fun maybe even more so than when we first started dating. I'll take this as a positive for sure, but this comment came directly before the whole if she cant get thru her confusion and back to me will I play nice remark.

W calls me earlier informing me that she was in the emergency room at 1 a.m. last night. She fell face first into a coffee table while playing with my D. She sent me a pic and it looks pretty bad. Cut below her eye that required 8 stitches, cut on nose and forehead as well. Her eye is all swollen and black and blue. It kinda hurts that she did not call me last night to let me know. She said her mom is mad at her because she thinks its because she was drinking. She said she wasent, but I know she had 4 or 5 drinks around me last night. I also know she drinks almost everyday now since we got separated. I dont know how to feel about this. [color: red]I'm upset for her and wish I could have helped somehow last night.[/color] The saga continues I guess.

She is still really confused and you?

I know she is doing it to cover the pain and confusion of this whole situation. I'm not saying that makes it ok, W never was a big drinker. Maybe just a glass of wine at night nothing more.

Are in denial that she is anywhere near a place to make a meaningful decision about your life together.

She is abusing alcohol at the very least and you know yourself that doesn't lead to good decisions like telling a woman who is not your W she is hot.

What makes you think she is having some clear eyed epiphany now?

In a week?

You can't see that because you want her back so much and under ANY circumstance.

I read through your thread and I have seen you get some excellent advice from these folks and some good questions asked of you

And your response has been lip service and dogging the tough questions.

You will stay stuck if you don't start opening your eyes.

But you have all the answers Indigo. You are holding the winning hand.

I bet you an autographed picture of Justin Beeber she ain't done cooking.

The oven isn't even warmed up.

You want to know whether I know what I'm talking about?

I can dig up my thread from circa my sign on date when I was sweating the minutes and the hours and the days when I would hear from my W. You will see her advance toward me and retreat like a yo yo.

This is tough sh!t man. It is hard as he'll and here is where you will find out who really are and want to be.

Because you have to let her swing on her own yo yo string. She has got to find her way on her own or she won't be any good to you or herself until she does.

Simple question and I will hound you until you answer.

What are your goals here?