The Big Chill

[Pudmuddle]

Looks like I need to start a new thread, but I'll answer you hear, uR.

Hi Pud. Glad you are doing well.

Just a couple of things, if I may.

You are still having expectations. Still basing your feelings and actions on his, ya know?

You need to live your life without regard to his words and actions.

Yes, I know I am. I am one who likes to get feedback on how to improve and I don't get that from him at all. But I do understand what you are saying. I do still do this a lot.

I have talked about having a roadmap for me. As a way of figuring out how to navigate through all this and well, through life, really.

I decided who I wanted to be, how I wanted to act. I did it everyday. Sometimes I made it, sometimes I didnt. But that was always the goal.

I'm not sure I know how to do this...can you give an example? I thought I had responded to cat with this type of thing.

So, how are you going to live a life of truth and grace and kindness?

What are you going to do differently than what you do now?

hmmm...
1) Stand for my marriage
2) Be forgiving of myself and others
3) Not try to control life's situations
4) Give in to a higher power
5) Believe that I am strong and wonderful
6) Accept people for who they are
7) Not react to every situation
8) Avoid sarcasm

Am I on the right track? Or do I still not get it?

Thank uR.