Fog City Coaster continues

[2ndtimearoundCA]

ask yourself how desired your wife felt in the marriage. How much did you SHOW her you wanted her and were willing to pursue her? Be honest about it.

I don't hear ANYTHING about pursuing her here. When we say "read the rules" we don't say they ALL apply. if you were neglectufl, or inattentive, then playing it cool is NOT the best route for you.

This is what I am most conflicted because I think this hits the nail on the head for my sitch. When BD occurred in February I spent about a week trying to be he the best h possible. When w started leaving the house for days at a time without telling me where she was going, I went dark. I never begged or pleaded. One time I said "you are breaking my heart and I would prefer you stay, but I understand that the M is over to you".. That's it.

I remember my sister got angry with me for not trying. I said pursuing will push her away.

I have pursued a little from time to time ...Vegas trip invite, one of the time we got together I initiated, ... Sometimes when I pursue I feel like she pulls back a bit.. When that happens I pull way back

Maybe it is time to try a more persistent pursuit, even though it goes against 99% of the advice I get here. Eg. See fly above