@adinva - no, I don't think I said that clearly - one of the VERY first things I said to W was she had to get tested, which is what brought up her past appointment. What I meant by my comment was I see the people on here that reconcile, or actually sleep with their H/W while they are also sleeping with OP, and I don't think I've ever seen anyone talk about testing or anything. Just surprised me when I thought about it...
@bug, jp787 - that's just it. For example, it is a healthy boundary to set NC with OP. But, for example, I would add that it has to be done by 2:00pm, or XYZ happens, even if it's not really reasonable to expect it. Almost as a little extra dig or "punishment" because I'm mad. I don't like that about me, and I want to be different. I really mean that. Beyond OM, I still need to work on me.
