I completely agree and you are correct we are co dependent. I know this now and am working on my part......but, despite the evidence, I have improved massively.
I didn't know we we're co dependent for 10 years......it's a habit that may take longer than 1.5 months to break. I'm a very caring person, I've never willingly left anyone to suffer anything alone.......except me! I'm working on putting me first, but leaving others to suffer alone is a nightmare for me. I've always considered myself a very strong person, but the discovery that I'm weak, controlling, needy and emotional has been hard to get over......how did I hide that from myself?
I'm still not sure that getting a lawyer is the right move, but I'll get there, just another thing to sleep on!
M32 H37 DD1 6 DD2 5 M6 T10 EA 31.08.13 Separated and H moved out 19.09.13 ILYBINILWY 23.09.13 OW 11.13