No, but I've been around your thread for a long time and sometimes things will be said and then we get a few days along and that's not exactly what was said or what happened.
As someone else said, you tend to waffle like this:
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Did you already give your w the NC condition for w breaking off ALL communication with OM? I thought you had set that condition before you and w ML and you failed to keep that boundary ..
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I think I'm going to approach it a little differently - instead of standing over W and barking demands, I'm just going to reject any invitation or time together, period. She'll want to know why, and then I'll give her the reason, and move on.
Setting boundaries isn't barking demands, it's saying what you need with the consequence clearly stated so the other person has a choice and they Know what to expect.
I'm not sure what you describe above means. It sounds like if she does something you think is good, you reward her??? Can you be more specific?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
