Your ego has now been fully stroked, you feel good, that's what she wants you to feel, secure.
The fact is until she is willing to shut OM down, your a plan B that's being stroked still. I honestly feel that if she was really done, and had that regret, she would have broke it off BEFORE she came back to you.
I hope i'm wrong, but I see this getting out of hand again soon. As she yoyo's back and forth. I also hope you don't catch anything, you know your wife has been with another man recently right?
JonF Wow there's so many perspective here that leads to the same cautionary note.
Probably best that you keep your pants up for a little while. Hear me?
M35 XW34 D5 D4 M 6years T 10years Bomb 5/2013 Joint Petition signed 6/2013 Moved out end of 8/2013 Court Hearing of Joint Petition 9/2013 D finalized in 3 months - no news yet
@lovethehub - your post was confirmation for me because I did almost exactly what you said. I called W and said (roughly), "It's pretty apparent our sex life has never been a problem and never will be a problem - but it is masking bigger issues. I know I participated fully, so this is not a blame game. Today was great, but unless you are willing to make a stand for us and cut off ALL contact with OM, then I'm sorry, but we can't spend time together. I just had to cancel our dinner reservations for Saturday because we can't go to dinner with things where they are."
She responded, "You don't know that we aren't going to make it to to dinner because I will take care of this." I answered, "Then, let me know when you do."
@Fly - I know it's the gross side of things, but W had a pap smear and checkup last week, or I wouldn't have touched her.
I know it's the gross side of things, but W had a pap smear and checkup last week, or I wouldn't have touched her.
I'm not sure why this is considered gross but FYI, a pap smear isn't diagnostic. It's a screening test for cancer and while signs of STDs may be seen, unless she asked for specific testing, you don't know any more than you did before the Pap.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
I will continue the cautionary tale here. A text doesnt mean anything. I got the text before initially going to MC with W after first BD. Saw it with my own two eyes. She brought it to me and showed it without me even asking. What she also did was tell OM that she had to show the text and to disregard it because it meant nothing, just something H was making her do.
SLOW, and keep DBing. Time and consistent actions got you to this place. Only time and consistent actions can get you out.
me: 30 XW:28 tgthr:4 m:1 no kids BD: June 2013 D: Jan 2014
I don't recall the entire list (I didn't keep the paper work), and don't laugh at my spelling, but Chlamydia, gonorrhea, HIV, syphilis, herpes, genital warts, and there were a couple others.
Now I'm nervous, should I ask for more tests? Doesn't everyone in an A get checked? I assumed it was a given that you don't roll the side on that.
