Good on you recognizing the button pushing aspect.
Originally Posted By: JFun51
Funniest thing this morning: for the first time in a long time W told me goodbye with a smile as she left. Boys always give me hugs and we trade ILYs, but W has been leaving without a word.
Yea, no surprise there J...
She didn't get the reaction she wanted with you, so it's time to reel you back in a bit.
Keep your eyes open with this. Reeling you in means that once you get reeled in, you are vulnerable to get chewed up and spit out again with venomous spewing.
Welcome to "the bounce" of the MLCer.
You will have "the bounce" as well, just recognize it for what it is, and try to find a balance within yourself.
Originally Posted By: JF
Question for today: How nice/cordial/friendly can I be while she goes through this without encouraging cake eating? Or does it even matter if I'm happy and my boys are protected and happy?
How nice and friendly can YOU be when YOU are going through this ????
What can you handle ??
Where is your line in the sand ???
Yesterday, you weren't sure if you could do this, and today, you want to snuggle with her whilst she texts her boy toy....
Think I was kidding about the bounce ???
Take in the good times, and let them fuel you through the bad times. And it all revolves around your balance.
Although you really need to figure yourself out fully before you can find said balance....
