@lovethehub - your post was confirmation for me because I did almost exactly what you said. I called W and said (roughly), "It's pretty apparent our sex life has never been a problem and never will be a problem - but it is masking bigger issues. I know I participated fully, so this is not a blame game. Today was great, but unless you are willing to make a stand for us and cut off ALL contact with OM, then I'm sorry, but we can't spend time together. I just had to cancel our dinner reservations for Saturday because we can't go to dinner with things where they are."
She responded, "You don't know that we aren't going to make it to to dinner because I will take care of this." I answered, "Then, let me know when you do."
@Fly - I know it's the gross side of things, but W had a pap smear and checkup last week, or I wouldn't have touched her.
