DARK - how do you do it right? I need help BADLY

[DTM]

One of the more difficult items that I am dealing with is that my W does not want to be in FL where we recently recloated. It was her idea to move here but as it works out our relationship, and her EA/PA with her girlfriend, her 'left behind' friends and her home based business seem to all be pulling her back to NC. I know this is a significant issue for my W because she brings it up routinely.
A recent example - she was offered a job at the gym where our children attend gymnastics - she turned it down (twice) because she doesn't want to commit to working there if "she doesn't plan on or know if she'll be here".
Tonight we had to pay for team fees and again she mentioned an additional fee that is due mid month and her concerns - I asked what her concerns were and she roundabout said the same thing - paying a lot of money for the kids classes and not sure she plans to be here.

This leads me to a lot of open ended questions - I don't want to move again, I like it where we are now and I followed through on my W's recommendation 2.5 years ago to relocate here through my company. I have a contractual commitment since my company moved us here to live up too.
There are so many opportunities here for our children (and my W) and the biggest for me is my new work schedule which gives me 14 days off a month (1/2 year!) to be home and part of the family like never before.
Since her priorities are not me and our family I do not understand the correct way to address any of her concerns. I will not 'fertillize" any of her ideas to move away or separate, weather that is selfish of me or not. I won't be the one to quit on the marriage or the family because I absolutely believe that divorce / separation is stupid (unless warranted by abuse, etc) and there is no good that comes from it. I also believe that our relationship can be better than it ever was with my changes and wake up call but she does not openly believe that - I get the typical WAS response that she has tried for far too long and gives up, no emotional attachement, no desire, etc.

I would love some extra insight or suggestions to this situation.

When she texted me tonight to tell me about the gymnastic fees due mid month and her concerns I simply wrote back "I understand how you feel and I'm sorry that is a concern. If you would like to talk about any of it feel free to call, if not please have a restful night. I'm here if you need me. "I don't know what to say, be positive and have a good night".

I'm sure I said something that wasn't right...and that's consistent with me not doing the right thing in this situation.