The Captain is the best, he helped me a lot. Sorry you are in this position. Don't fall into the trap that thinking your wife's lack of desire is "your fault" because you haven't made yourself attractive enough.
People need to be responsible for their own sexuality, including speaking up when they're not getting what they need. Many men in your position will start blindly throwing darts trying to make things better when nothing you do will have any impact unless your wife wants things to improve for her own sake.
When your aimless darts don't result in the response you were expecting, frustration is the usual result and that makes everything worse for both parties.
I assume you've discussed this with your wife -- what does she have to say about it?
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
