PATIENCE PROMISCUITY AND PROFIDIOUSNESS

[MrBond]

You chose to interpret it as a snarky or nasty comment. It wasn't.

I was just stating a fact. That there are times that the WAS affairs up. I didn't say that was the fact in your case. In fact, many of the things I mentioned were just "matter of fact".

How you chose to interpret them was up to you. They weren't mean to be mean, it's now YOU chose to interpret them. No one else seemed to be bothered by them and if they did, they would have said something. It's the same for any communication. Including the ones you have with your H. Go back and read my posts to you. They weren't said in a nasty way, just straightforward. You were the one who labeled them as nasty.

The beauty of an open forum like this is that it welcomes all points of view. Nobody hear gets paid, but everyone here has one goal in mind. To save marriages.

cat04 is right. Regardless of whether you're a woman or man, we all feel the same emotions and react the same way as the LBS. Learning to understand another person's POV and accept that they have a right to express it (even if you don't agree with it) is what DBing is all about. Attacking and making assumptions about a person's intentions doesn't help. This understanding is what will help your situation.