You chose to interpret it as a snarky or nasty comment. It wasn't.
I was just stating a fact. That there are times that the WAS affairs up. I didn't say that was the fact in your case. In fact, many of the things I mentioned were just "matter of fact".
How you chose to interpret them was up to you. They weren't mean to be mean, it's now YOU chose to interpret them. No one else seemed to be bothered by them and if they did, they would have said something. It's the same for any communication. Including the ones you have with your H. Go back and read my posts to you. They weren't said in a nasty way, just straightforward. You were the one who labeled them as nasty.
The beauty of an open forum like this is that it welcomes all points of view. Nobody hear gets paid, but everyone here has one goal in mind. To save marriages.
cat04 is right. Regardless of whether you're a woman or man, we all feel the same emotions and react the same way as the LBS. Learning to understand another person's POV and accept that they have a right to express it (even if you don't agree with it) is what DBing is all about. Attacking and making assumptions about a person's intentions doesn't help. This understanding is what will help your situation.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
I did not want to seem as though I was being distant.
I just said:
" Got your message, hope you had fun!"
He immediately responded:
" Did you take the car in ?" " No, not yet. Busy busy day thanks for asking. "
" I'd just hate to have you breakdown somewhere. " " Me too, lol ! "
Subject changed
" A. wants to hunt Friday and Sat. How do you feel about swapping cars with me.....thurs. and swap back on sat night? "
" When on Thursday? " " Early afternoon. " " OK "
So it seems as though, the driving back and forth in separate cars for the two guys, is already old. This way he can go back and forth with A. in one vehicle, and won't need to stop by here to swap around.
s i g h , I actually enjoyed them around. It is very quiet here with just me.
But on a good note, I don't have to worry about his timing on Fri. night, which is when there is a dance for the swing students!
Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
T squared...did you start to use condoms with wife after incident?
Not that I'm expecting to have sex...actually I don't believe we are ANYwhere near that. Just thinking in case I am surprised, should I have condoms on hand?
That is the only option, other than rejection, that would allow me to consider it with him. Especially in the light of possible activity.
Just a thought. Again my feelings are not stable or consistent at the moment, still raw.
Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
I did not want to seem as though I was being distant.
I just said:
" Got your message, hope you had fun!"
He immediately responded:
" Did you take the car in ?" " No, not yet. Busy busy day thanks for asking. "
" I'd just hate to have you breakdown somewhere. " " Me too, lol ! "
Subject changed
" A. wants to hunt Friday and Sat. How do you feel about swapping cars with me.....thurs. and swap back on sat night? "
" When on Thursday? " " Early afternoon. " " OK "
So it seems as though, the driving back and forth in separate cars for the two guys, is already old. This way he can go back and forth with A. in one vehicle, and won't need to stop by here to swap around.
s i g h , I actually enjoyed them around. It is very quiet here with just me.
But on a good note, I don't have to worry about his timing on Fri. night, which is when there is a dance for the swing students! _________________________
Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
T squared...did you start to use condoms with wife after incident?
Not that I'm expecting to have sex...actually I don't believe we are ANYwhere near that. Just thinking in case I am surprised, should I have condoms on hand?
That is the only option, other than rejection, that would allow me to consider it with him. Especially in the light of possible activity.
Just a thought. Again my feelings are not stable or consistent at the moment, still raw. _________________________
Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
Ambivalent, Considering your h is out on the street, I strongly urge you to have condoms on hand. Why would you want to risk getting that little gift that keeps on giving? Protect yourself even if he doesn't think about it.
Yes, I can tell from your postings that your emotions are not consistent. They are like ping pong balls bouncing all around.
I hope your appointment tomorrow will help you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
