I agree that you should not go dark if your W is committed to working on the M.
Things sound good. From other LBH posts I've read, being hyper-analytical is very....very common. I've also read where they advise each other to work hard to get a grip on it...or else it will drive them nuts. I think it would get to be too much to bear and start to show up in unattractive ways to her.
I have also seen something else common in LBH's when they are working hard to be the man only a fool would leave. When the W doesn't seem to respond in the way he thinks she should (work on the M as hard, appreciate his changes enough, or see results fast enough, etc.)he can begin to feel anger & resentment toward her b/c he feels he deserves better (since he's working so hard in the M). I just wanted to share that information with you, so you would be better prepared. The more informed, the better equipped you will be.
If you become too analytical, she will start to pull back and/or hide things (like playing on the cell phone) b/c of what it does to you. I'm only saying these things to caution you. I'm not criticizing you. You are doing great.
Has she ever had an EA/PA in the past (since being with you)?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
