For those of you new to this, I just wanted to say a few things.
Although it is hard to see through all the heartache this causes, try to find compassion for your spouses. They clearly are not the people they once were. They are in pain, too. Unbearable pain, at times.
Imagine for a moment, feeling as if your life is out of control. You are deeply unhappy. You dont know why. You just know that you want the hurting to stop.
You try everything you can, and it is still there. You become someone opposite of who you are. It is still there. You lash out at your spouse, alienate your children, act out, regress. And still the deep sadness continues.
They feel as if they are swimming in a lake of mud. Trying to get out, flailing about, unable to reach the shore.
I know their actions are devastating. I do. I know there are times when you are so angry with them, so disappointed, so deeply pained.
And I absolutely understand when you cannot take it any longer.
Until then, remember their pain, too. Allow them what they need. Space, time, no pressure. Let them walk their journey on their own. It is the only way they can get to the other side.
Take the opportunity to find you. Become strong. Become who you were meant to be.
