Most women assume the OW is better than them! It is a woman/competition thing.
This is true.
Finding out about an affair leaves most women filled with insecurities.
It does the same thing for men.
Mr. Bond, was simply stating something that actually happens to be pretty substantiated.
You chose how to interperate it...
Originally Posted By: Ambivilent
My ego is not the point . That too is a man thing.
I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt. I've told you how I feel and what helps me.
Using words such as " Perhaps, have you considered, has it occurred, or crossed your mind...are a bit more reader-friendly.
Your ego is very much the point. To say ego is a "man thing" is a sterotype and simply not true.
All people have ego's. Otherwise women wouldn't feel that woman/competition thing you talked about...
You also appear to have some control issues going on here.
Not every one feels the need to sugar coat their words.
Originally Posted By: Ambivilent
Men are more accepting of being clubbed, women are not! Just something to ponder.
This is also a falsehood.
You appear to make very sweeping generalizations based on very little evidence often.
That doesn't seem to be working very well for you, IMO.
What have you done, besides simply watch and wait for your H to come back home, to change your situation?
What have you done to step out of the victim mindset that you seem to have?
I don't want to bash you, however, I can see some very glaring things that will stand in your way of every reconciling this relationship in a healthy way.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
