Just read through your entire thread and it feels like I got in the Hot Tub Time Machine. A lot of similarities with your answers and how I answered questions when I first came here. And Mach was the guy that gave me the red pill as well and I can't say enough good things about him. While the journey is a tough one and you'll get mad at the questions at times you'll never go back to the old you if you stick with it.
I think people covered the need/ want stuff but it can be done. My LL is PT and WOA and I slept in the same bed for over 10 months without any touching at all. Did it $uck, yeah...but I lived through it. Could I have went out and found PT somewhere else? Yeah but I would have had to live with that regret and I'm so glad I didn't. And don't listen to Mach's sitting on the hand thing...just gets messy
Since we are so similar there are a ton of places I want to go but let's start with one that I think screams from this post. It's the words obligation and duty. I think Mach asked you about it originally and your response was:
Originally Posted By: JFun51
"Obligation"? "Chivalry"? Are those dirty words? I know they serve no purpose in our conversation.
I couldn't disagree more. I think this is a place to start looking at your motives for why you do things. There are quite a few things you've said in this post that made me think of those 2 words.
During my journey down the rabbit hole I realized that the majority of my adult life were because of an obligation and not because of a true desire. I'm not saying duty and chivalry or anything like that is bad, all I'm saying is that you need to want to do those things for the right reasons. In a M I believe that reason is love. It's not because you were born a man if that makes sense.
So... Do you feel obligated to save M or is it something you really want?
Do you feel obligated to love your W because of how much time you've invested together or do you love her for her?
Do you feel obligated to stand for M for the family or is standing for what you want and believe in what you really want?
Do you feel obligated to be a great dad or is it something you really want (this sounds easier to answer)?
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
