My opinion is this, I wouldn't be happy w/my h dealing with an escort, prostitute or an ow. Quite frankly, there is no difference in the word affair for any of them if a sexual act is performed. Any of them can pass along the friend that keeps on giving and yes, it's a slap in the face to the spouse, no matter who they are. But that's my opinion.
Oh believe me, me too! I was stepping back and thinking about emotional attachment over sexual promiscuity. Both hurt, and yes BOTH carry high risks. I believe this is one of the reason for the physical separation. It allows him to be experimental and not give it to me.
For he probably thought I'd try and jump him and then where'd he be? This way, he doesn't have me "see" anything.
Either way, it is a justification for adultery . Either way I'm not sure where this will lead.
By giving myself a year of Hell, I should be strong enough to move on from him. Right now, I'm not. I vacillate to and fro, and cannot stand it at times.
It is taking a toll on my self-esteem. It is reinforcing all the fears and pain of my abandonment when younger.
Like I said before, I may be mind reading or assuming, but too many things are tangible. I still know him enough, and also know the language of the/a liar enough to know it is a VERY real and present predictable possibility.
Doncha just love alliteration?
Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
