Aiming for the PMA of a glow worm....

[Not Quitting]

Definitely needs to dump the baggage - and not just OW. He's got a female friend which I'd consider to be an inappropriate friendship - she's the same age as his boys with XW1, her boyfriend doesn't like their friendship (obviously neither she or H have any respect for the BF's feelings) and he uses her as a sounding board for his issues - both marital and with OW. Not to mention that she has her own agenda - if H offered to bed her, she'd be on him like a dog in heat.

I fully intend to let him ride out his rollercoaster. I'll take whatever positives I get, but certainly no expectations, and definitely baby steps all the way.