Aiming for the PMA of a glow worm....

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It would be nice, but no expectations .

And I do agree about H and his relationship with my dad. After all, my dad allowed him to move into his house which is something that he wouldn't have done for either of my sisters' SOs.

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Well H turned up this morning as early as expected - he sent me a text yesterday afternoon to say he would be here no later than 8am or possibly earlier. I didn't see the text for a good three hours, and then simply responded "K".

The plan was for him to take our son to his place for the day, and yesterday we had sorted out a box of Lego to be taken to H's place. Anyway, H decided that he wanted to hang out at our place for the day instead - hmmmm ?? And there were no b$&chy comments about my dad at all today either. I had a couple of errands to run and H said he was coming along with me, and while we were out he bought brunch.

My niece and her boyfriend turned up unexpectedly and visited for a while. H was friendly - not standoffish like he is with my oldest nephew or either of my sisters. Might have just been playing nice so as not to cause a scene, but I actually saw the old H while my niece was here.

He had asked if I would give him a buzz cut this weekend - he's in the Legion and they've got Remembrance Day ceremonies next week so he needs to look neat and tidy. I took the opportunity for a little physical contact - hand on shoulder while doing the buzz cut. He didn't react, which is a good thing - he didn't flinch and pull away.

And once again, when it came time for him to leave he seemed to be reluctant. He managed to put a slight dampener on the day by making a comment about what happened to his dinner yesterday when "someone forgot to take it out of her freezer". Although it was almost like he felt obliged to make some kind of comment to make things less comfortable than they had been all day.

[MileHigh]

Is that a glow I see?

[TryingToDo180]

Sounds like good news It's a shame he had to spoil it

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Actually, I've become so used to him putting a spoiler on things that it doesn't bother me now. I'd be more surprised if he didn't do it .

I'm pretty sure it was done because he was feeling too comfortable and he still isn't sure what he wants, so comfortable isn't a good thing for him.

[TryingToDo180]

I think you're right At the moment he doesn't know what he wants. His mind may still be in an MLC fog and he's still on his own emotional roller coaster. He needs to get rid of the baggage he's acquired as well, ie. the OW!

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Definitely needs to dump the baggage - and not just OW. He's got a female friend which I'd consider to be an inappropriate friendship - she's the same age as his boys with XW1, her boyfriend doesn't like their friendship (obviously neither she or H have any respect for the BF's feelings) and he uses her as a sounding board for his issues - both marital and with OW. Not to mention that she has her own agenda - if H offered to bed her, she'd be on him like a dog in heat.

I fully intend to let him ride out his rollercoaster. I'll take whatever positives I get, but certainly no expectations, and definitely baby steps all the way.

[melissag]

NQ, I love the glow worm idea. I'm a lot newer at this than you are, and reading your posts inspires me! Sounds like things are turning around for you . . . I hope it continues!

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Thanks melissag.

I've not had a chance to catch up on your thread but I'll try and pop over there later when I've got a bit more time.

[TryingToDo180]

if H offered to bed her, she'd be on him like a dog in heat.

I feel like this about my H's "friend" as well. Someone on the bus today mentioned her daughter, but couldn't remember her name. I had to force myself to talk about her.

Welcome to the nuthouse Melissa only kidding NQ lol. We have a lot of fun on our threads when they are not being overtaken by our sitches, lol