2old, I've got to keep busy to forget about my current sitch. I tell you that you've got it easy with hardly any contact from your W. News Update! Got a call from H today telling me that he's got a benefits check on Thursday and he's worried about it. He asked what they asked me and I told him on a need to know basis. I also told him not to worry and to ring them up if he's worried. He's really tugging at my heart strings at the mo, not in a good way either! I'm not hard enough to tell him that's tough. I started off ok, but then caved in and said I'll speak to my mum. I don't intend to though He started off by saying I can't re-mortgage the house as I'm not working. I said yes and I can't afford the repayments either and I can't get housing benefit on a mortgage. He then asked if I would speak to my mum and tell her that he wants to sell the house and can she buy him out. This is also not going to happen! He then started tugging at my heart strings and pressing all my buttons. He said it would make him very happy and get him out of his depression if he could just pay off all his debt. I validated this and said I'm going to the advice centre and see what they can suggest about my debts. I advised him to go, but he said he went 2 years ago and they can't help as we own our own house and the credit cards won't accept a reduced payment because of this. I'm not a hard person and I sort of agreed to talk to my mum. I'm going to delay talking to her though. I'm seeing a counsellor next Tuesday so I'm going to delay it until then and see if she can give me some advice on how to deal with him. HWA, this is for you - You know on your thread I asked you to let go and let God, well when I got that phone call from H, I prayed. I asked God to take it off me and for H to stop hassling me about this. Almost straight away I got a phone call from the counsellor to say that she can see me next Tuesday She did originally say tomorrow, but I can't get out of college as we're being given some new work to do tomorrow. Normally it takes a few weeks before you can see a counsellor, this was straight away This is what happens when you leave your problems with God HWA That is just one example. I do have others but I'm aware that not all my friends on here go to Church. So this is where I'm up to. I've still not heard from women's support group, but was thinking of using the prayer line on UCB I'll see how I feel later on as to what I do about it, but It's causing me a lot of stress at the mo.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
