So lost and hurt #3

[Ambivalent]

Indigo,

As MWD says, its okay to celebrate the positive steps. YAY! That was not just a good night, but an awesome night. IF she was drinking, you can expect some withdrawal . For when "softened" much of the heart does come out. If she was sober, even better.
She took a risk.

I know you didn't pursue, but you do talk a lot to her about you changing or changes. It has been 2 months. Talking about changes IS an argument, no matter how softly presented. It is one of the no-no's.
If changes are important to your wife, allow her to notice them, comment on them, but you stay mum about them. Casual.

Again, great night! Intimacy building and risk taking on HER part. She's been hurt by you, and she allowed herself to be vulnerable with you...that is HUGE!

<3