I have been living in a SSM for about 10 years prior to BD. Never quite like this. I have given her 2 or 3 long body massages since BD. She did reject the idea of me going any further. Finding a way to "cope with" or "handle" my own needs has never been a problem for me. Th AD I'm on does make it a little more difficult.

If I reach out to rub her back or try to hold her, will that be counterproductive to my DBing? I have been free from all physical contact for several weeks now. No touch, no rub, not even an accidental bump. Will that be seen as pursuing? I don't want to push her away even more. She is clearly taking interest and noticing my changes.


Both 40
T-22 M-18
S13
S11

Bomb, ILYBINILWY-7/10/13
EA #1-confirmed 7/10/13, ongoing since 5/13
EA #2-9/13/13

Moved out and Legally Separated 6/14

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