XW discovered on Friday evening that she is essentially out of money and is unable to pay her due bills. I was with her when she figured this out and she was, understandably, very distraught. I offered no financial assistance all weekend, though I felt like she wanted me to offer (mind reading, but just saying that's how I felt). I didn't sleep well Friday night - I maybe got 2 or 3 hours, but I prayed a lot.
It's a difficult experience to watch and not help. BUT, it is an important boundary and I am respecting her wishes. Help from me isn't help. She needs to be okay on her own - "help" from me is facilitating her getting there. In this case, that's NOT swooping in to kick her financial problems can down the road another month.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
