I am hoping for the best here but what I have been seeing from you is a lot of watching and chasing after your W.

Detachment is to protect YOU from the roller coaster you have allowed yourself to ride with her.

How much did she have to drink?

Be careful here.....

Look you screwed up in your M before right?

That is the worst place to be to try and reconcile and I don't mean because she may not forgive you.

I mean you have to forgive yourself.

Otherwise you will be this guy who buckles at every criticism whether deserved or not.

Time to put the words in a box and let them stay locked up. Enough talking about how you have changed.

The quicker YOU decide what you want and not let your W decide your fate for you the clearer you will be on this and the more detached you 'll become.

WTF am I talking about?

Don't let her make the choice whether your marriage can be saved. Don't give her that power. Take back your own.

You want to save your M? Then state that as YOUR goal regardless of what your W is saying, not saying, doing not doing....

It's true she has a right to divorce you and that is HER choice.

Do for you Indigo.

The rest will take care of itself.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am