Wow, well that's a pretty complicated sitch. My initial reaction is that you should tell her you're moving home (don't ask her, just tell her that's what you're doing) and then follow through and do it. If she wants to leave then let her leave, but that's her decision to make. If you choose not to go home then you're making that decision for her. I wouldn't ask her if it's OK with her, or ask her what she thinks about it, just tell her in as matter-of-fact a way as you can.
Yes I think that you are right. Her ability to make any decisions at this point is pretty bad. She changes her mind as often as the wind changes on a gusty day. Thanks.
Wife emotionally checked out 2 years ago ILYBNLWY 2/1/2013 M-48, W-40 D-9 Living together in separation for daughter
I agree that I'd just tell her that you'll be moving back home when you are finished with the movie. Maybe that could even give you a chance to really show her any changes you have made.
I've been told that if you think a certain way, then you will act in a way that will allow that thought to come to fruition. What I mean is that you are trying to read her mind and guess that she already has some plans about moving out and you don't really know that for sure. If this is what you are expecting, then you'll probably act in ways that will accomodate this.
I also think I would definitely get some sort of gift for your anniversary. Nothing huge or extravagant but just something that shows that you do care.
I'm no vet or expert, but just some thoughts of my own I wanted to share.
Me: 31 H: 32 Married 10 years, together 11 No kids H moved out to an apt 8-3-13
Experience: That most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my God, do you learn. ~C.S. Lewis
Thanks, You are a woman and I value the way things look from your perspective. My wife was very happy and surprised by her recent birthday gifts. I think that if I did not recognize our anniversary it would be a big step backwards.
Wife emotionally checked out 2 years ago ILYBNLWY 2/1/2013 M-48, W-40 D-9 Living together in separation for daughter
This next situation is something only a woman can answer. This past weekend while sleeping in bed with my wife she starts to masturbate. I stayed perfectly still because I couldn't believe it was happening right next to me. We haven't slept together for 2 years now so I wasn't going to stop her. My question is why? Why not just wait until I am not around or even better let me join in
Wife emotionally checked out 2 years ago ILYBNLWY 2/1/2013 M-48, W-40 D-9 Living together in separation for daughter
Could she have just been having moment of lust? I am down 30lbs from when we started, physically fit. Instead of turning her back to me in bed like she has done for the last 2 years she actually started facing me and a little foot contact. Maybe, who knows.
Wife emotionally checked out 2 years ago ILYBNLWY 2/1/2013 M-48, W-40 D-9 Living together in separation for daughter
I know that is getting a lot personal so I won't pursue that. When I traveled to DC for my wife's B-day she said that it was the best birthday ever. I helped to turn a mid life crisis into a great weekend full of quality time. During this weekend my wife talked about taking our daughter to New York for a weekend. I told her that was great and they will have a great time together. I didn't give it a 2nd thought. This weekend my wife asked if I wanted to go and if she knew earlier she could have made arrangements. I told her that I didn't say anything because I did not want to invite myself. She just looked at me and sarcastically said please. Well I took the initiative to book a flight and get tickets next to thom at a play they are seeing. Is she testing me to see if changes I have made are real? She never talks about divorce or separation to me so I am thoroughly confused.
Wife emotionally checked out 2 years ago ILYBNLWY 2/1/2013 M-48, W-40 D-9 Living together in separation for daughter
This next situation is something only a woman can answer. This past weekend while sleeping in bed with my wife she starts to masturbate. I stayed perfectly still because I couldn't believe it was happening right next to me. We haven't slept together for 2 years now so I wasn't going to stop her. My question is why? Why not just wait until I am not around or even better let me join in
Well, clearly she's feeling more comfortable around you if nothing else. I think I would have been inclined to "test the waters", but maybe that's just me, LOL!
