If she is having trouble with NC, then its especially important to go VERY slowly, for your own protection. Make sure there is NC for an extended period and that she goes through withdrawls.
Can only offer my perspective. W said NC and it might have lasted a week, but she didn't go all the way through withdrawls and went back to contact stronger than before. Don't take too much solice in having access to phone or FB. Where there's a will there's a way. I found fedex boxes and letters sent directly to W work. Not trying to ruin a good moment, just offering warnings. SLOW and steady.
me: 30 XW:28 tgthr:4 m:1 no kids BD: June 2013 D: Jan 2014