I guess I have to remember that while he may be enjoying how things are now, he is still feeling very burned by what happened before, and doesn't trust that things will stay like they are now.
He may not even be enjoying things right now, a lot of WAS's will continue participating in family stuff but for them it's just going through the motions. They are deep in the fog and stuff that brought them pleasure before BD doesn't anymore.
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I listen to all their talk about how cool his apartment is and I'm encouraging
For kids it's an adventure at first, but that'll wear off in a few months. My kids were really excited about it, the idea of having their own rooms in two different houses seemed fantastic. But a year later they're tired of going back-and-forth and they don't like W's neighborhood or the people in it.
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Am I supposed to pretend like I don't care? That seems impossible. Or can I just be real (without begging, seeming pathetic, talking about the future, etc.) and allow him to see my sadness, but then go back to GAL, etc. after he is gone?
I tried to act like I didn't care, but I imagine my W could see I was sad about it. The DB'ing approach is to act "as if" everything is fine even when it isn't. I doubt we're fooling the WAS when we act as if though.
