Do you know what co-dependent means? That's asked as a truly inquiring question, not a snide comment. Many people don't, you might at least look at the book,it may ring true, especially in light of what you said about 5LL.

All those things that you comment about how hard they are...have you looked at the time line in my sig? I get it.

So what's the answer to the question I asked? You did a lot of defending but left that out.

What kind of help do you want?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss