gathered some old posts.....hope they help

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uR,
You and your friend are right, the board has changed. It's not way it use to be. When I came here long ago, the people here were just beginning to understand MLC. We all took the time to research the various issues such as depression, personality disorders, abuse issues, etc. to be better understand what may have been the ingredients that helped the pot bubble forth.

We didn't have the luxury of a MLC Archives as we do today. One of the things that I did to help me better understand MLC and cope w/the situation, was to read everything I could get my hands on, i.e., the items I mentioned in the first paragraph. Doing the hard homework and learning to accept that I couldn't change the course of my xh's mlc was the hardest thing that I ever learned...but one thing I did not do and that is to become a victim. I stood strong and fought for myself, to save myself from going down the Yellow Brick Road w/him.

BTW, I can remember having my as$ kicked too. Posters were tougher and spoke their minds. Yes, we got our feelings hurt, but we learned to look within because outsiders could see things that we couldn't because we were too close.

Life isn't a bed of roses, but one mixed w/some weeds that are attempting to strangle the roses. When the crisis hits, we have the option to either weed the rose bed or allow the weeds to continue to grow and kill the beautiful roses. I think most that post here are more than willing to do the weeding so that their roses will continue to thrive. So, w/that being said, I urge posters to do the hard work of educating yourselves about what is going on, not just by posting, but reading the postings of others on the current forum, as well as reading the postings in the MLC archives. There is a lot of good information there just waiting to help you plot your journey.

You, the poster, will be the one to determine how your journey progresses and the final outcome will be of your choosing.