Slow is right, especially with W. She is very emotionally messed up right now, and obviously something is wrong when an extremely loyal and moral person can have an affair with someone she isn't even attracted to other than she said things like, "he was nice" or "he is no pressure". Not really stealing her heart, you know.
She did talk to OM last night, so he knows, and she told him we were working on our marriage, so they weren't going to see each other again, even as friends. She said she was nervous, but she also gave me her phone login, and said she won't delete any texts.
These are huge steps. I probably would be happier but W has been so mealymouthed about it. I have to keep reminding myself that she avoids conflict unless she is angry, so for her to take responsibility for her is big...
