If you search up Hero, spouse and Midlife crisis, you will find it. :-)
It helped me tons!!!! When I learned about the OW. It lessened the sucker punch feelings. Her description of who the OW is typically is awesome. I forget what she calls them--predators?
Give it a shot.
Heather
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson