Here is a portion of the article. My friend did an excellent job of capturing the description of an "affair down". Please keep in mind that the "affair down" partner can be of any education...but it's the moral compass that is off kilter in them.
"MLCers affair down; there may be a number of reasons. •The Knight in Shining Armour Syndrome/Rescue Complex: He is seeking someone who can look up to and admire him. He needs a damsel in distress. •Birds of a feather... He found someone who matches his present level of behaviour and maturity. •For some, Pond Scum is the only thing available--the only thing willing to date him. •She has loose morals; she will let him live the Bachelor Party Life. She's loose with booze and perhaps into drugs. She will let him do whatever he wants--as long as she can control him. •Curiosity: he wants to take a walk on the wild side (to boldly go where many men have gone before). •Variety is the spice of life. •He thinks she's trashy, easy and therefore a sure thing. The alienator may be your opposite, why? •If you are a moral person who wouldn't date a married man, he isn't going to find a willing woman who is like you. Thus it follows that she would be unlike you. Moral woman don't knowingly date married men. •If he views you as too nice, perfect, or pious, she may be his rebellion against what you represent. •Whether he shows it or not, he is feeling immense guilt. Since a large portion of the guilt is from his adultery, you are a reminder of his guilt and thus thoughts of you make it worse. A woman similar to you would remind him of his guilt, which he is trying to escape. •It didn't work with you, so he wants someone different. •MLCers live within their shadow self; they become their own opposite. We subconsciously seek out partners who fulfill our missing pieces and needs. In his opposite state, he needs a person different than you to do this."
You can do a google search on the words "affair down" and there are plenty of articles that describe the the situation quite well.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
