I did very similar mind reading with my husband that you are doing. 95% of what I thought was going down did not happen. I have to admit that I kind of got off on thinking I was really in the know and had a handle on what my husband was up to. And as it unfolded, I found I was wrong. Even in light of what I thought was good evidence. I'm not saying your husband isn't having an affair, but I AM saying that no matter what you think or how you feel right now, you really don't know the facts. To let that "monster" go will be the best gift you can give yourself right now. It's not about being naive or blind or stupid. It's about letting go of control. In my own case I had so many details wrong about my husband and the OW. I am actually kind of embarrassed at how wrong I was about my assumptions. This may not be the case for you.......but many of us have been in your shoes, only later to find out the OP is/was really not a factor. And trust me, though I don't know why you should, you don't know me, the OW is not the reason for your troubles. Hang in there. Allow yourself the freedom to believe in the possibility that you really don't have all the accurate facts. You are at a critical point in determining the course moving forward. My best to you. Back56
