New to the board, fairly newly LBS from MLC.

[tigerlily78]

I am not doing so hot yet in the eating and sleeping department, but I have had social plans for 2 of the last 3 days, so I feel accomplished in the GAL department.

Today is WS's birthday. I haven't made any contact. He went out with the OW last night and I assume probably won't be back until late tonight or tomorrow before work. I am glad I invested the time to read the resources. I understand now that his birthday is probably a minefield of emotions and confusion. He needs to run away today, I get it. It's not about me, it's not that OW is more fun, it's that he is physically running from his pain and fear.

Reconciling myself to the fact that the odds are so remote that he will come home at all today, I am taking my son out to run some errands and maybe go hiking at a park. The leaves are beautiful. I am blessed to still have a good loving relationship with the MOST important person in my life. That is where I am going to put my focus today.

When WS comes home, I'll probably be here loving from a distance, waiting for him to initiate contact... but with luck, maybe I won't be and then he can really be alone with his thoughts and feelings for awhile.