"W- I want the fairy tale. I know that sounds really cheesy but its the only way I can describe it. I want to be the center of your world. I need to be able to count on you, trust you, know that you'll protect me no matter what and know you will always keep your promises. I'm asking a lot I know that but I don't want mediocre I want extraordinary."

I am mixed on this Indigo, not knowing your W. On one hand you have the "I want the fairy tale" part. Well, I want to look like George Clooney and hit Powerball this week, but part of being a mature adult is knowing what is reality. On the other hand, your W is telling you that before she couldn't count on you, couldn't trust you, and didn't believe you would protect her no matter what, and didn't believe you kept your promises. Is this a fair statement? Is she right? Have you changed and know that this would be different now? These requests don't sound like a make-believe vision of what a husband should be, they seem pretty reasonable to me.

I know there were things that she was not the best with and having an A right now doesn't trust build, I get all that, but you can only control yourself, I would suggest writing these things down and writing what would be different now than before (I am a business guy and do this a lot, helps me get my thoughts together).

Then, when you meet tonight, STFU and listen. No matter how great what she is saying is. You have the luxury of going away for a week Thursday, you might focus tonight on hearing what she has to say and really dig into it with a lot of questions, assure her you still love her and would love a life together, but that you need to process it and want to talk more when you get back from hunting? I think just giving her quick answers to tough questions surrounded by a lot of pain would send a message that you don't really hear her and don't really get it. I don't know, just my two cents.

Good luck, no matter how you cut it, the fact that she has expressed this to you is a positive thing, just go in with tempered expectations.

CB

Me; 42, W; 43
M; 16 yrs
S12, D9

3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure"
5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"